After some contemplation, there are some qualities I’ve noticed in people with strong identities, meaning they’ve developed themselves to be people who know who they are, whether it’s Martin Luther King Jr.’s identity, Muhammad Ali’s, or Babe Ruth’s. Good or bad, they knew who they were and strongly identified with certain aspects that formed their identity. Most people’s identity has been formed unconsciously; that is it was created by environment, family, events, associations, and circumstances….and being so, was not chosen consciously. However, contrary to contemporary knowledge, your identity is completely subject to your will and can be formed, changed, or transformed consciously. It is completely at your choosing, and these 7 keys, if practiced constantly and consistently, will assist you in that endeavor, if you so choose.
1. Consistency. Your identity is the result of your habits, plain and simple; habit in your thoughts and actions, which form unconscious beliefs which are often called paradigms. Whatever you do and think consistently becomes what you identify with. I was once asked by a friend, “Do you play chess?” I responded “Well, I have played chess in the past, but I don’t do it consistently and I don’t have plans to play chess anytime soon.” He thought my answer was way too complex, but it made absolute sense to me. Because playing chess is not something I do consistently, it is not a habit, so I don’t identify with being a chess player, even though I have played it in the past.
